“I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions and not upon our circumstances.” –Martha Washington
Friday, October 10, 2014
The Porn Pandemic
This video is long, but I promise it's worth the time. It's very interesting because it shows how pornography SCIENTIFICALLY affects the brain and the consequences it may have. As people, we tend to get addicted to things easily; Video games, tv shows, drugs, alcohol, caffeine, foods, ect... Why is pornography any different? However the effects of pornography and the addictions it causes are much more severe. This is a topic that has been on my mind recently. I feel like it is something that is becoming more and more common in our society.
I'm a Criminal Justice major and have a weird obsession with the criminal mind. I find it fascinating to see the correlation between different crimes and the activities and addictions people participated in prior to committing said criminal acts. Ted Bundy, on his final interview with James Dobson right before his execution, said the following:
JCD: For the record, you are guilty of killing many women and girls.
Ted: Yes, that’s true.
JCD: How did it happen? What are the antecedents of the behavior that we’ve seen? You were raised in what you consider to be a healthy home. You were not physically, sexually or emotionally abused.
Ted: No. And that’s part of the tragedy of this whole situation. I grew up in a wonderful home with two dedicated and loving parents, as one of 5 brothers and sisters. We, as children, were the focus of my parent’s lives. We regularly attended church. My parents did not drink or smoke or gamble. There was no physical abuse or fighting in the home...
As a young boy of 12 or 13, I encountered, outside the home, in the local grocery and drug stores, softcore pornography... From time to time, we would come across books of a harder nature - more graphic... The most damaging kind of pornography - and I’m talking from hard, real, personal experience - is that that involves violence and sexual violence. The wedding of those two forces - as I know only too well - brings about behavior that is too terrible to describe.
JCD: Walk me through that. What was going on in your mind at that time?
Ted: Before we go any further, it is important to me that people believe what I’m saying. I’m not blaming pornography. I’m not saying it caused me to go out and do certain things. I take full responsibility for all the things that I’ve done. That’s not the question here. The issue is how this kind of literature contributed and helped mold and shape the kinds of violent behavior.
JCD: It fueled your fantasies.
Ted: In the beginning, it fuels this kind of thought process. Then, at a certain time, it is instrumental in crystallizing it, making it into something that is almost a separate entity inside.
JCD: You had gone about as far as you could go in your own fantasy life, with printed material, photos, videos, etc., and then there was the urge to take that step over to a physical event.
TED: Once you become addicted to it, and I look at this as a kind of addiction, you look for more potent, more explicit, more graphic kinds of material. Like an addiction, you keep craving something which is harder and gives you a greater sense of excitement, until you reach the point where the pornography only goes so far - that jumping off point where you begin to think maybe actually doing it will give you that which is just beyond reading about it and looking at it...
I knew it was wrong to think about it, and certainly, to do it was wrong. I was on the edge, and the last vestiges of restraint were being tested constantly, and assailed through the kind of fantasy life that was fueled, largely, by pornography.
JCD: Do you remember what pushed you over that edge? Do you remember the decision to “go for it”? Do you remember where you decided to throw caution to the wind?
Ted: It’s a very difficult thing to describe - the sensation of reaching that point where I knew I couldn’t control it anymore. The barriers I had learned as a child were not enough to hold me back from seeking out and harming somebody.
JCD: Would it be accurate to call that a sexual frenzy?
Ted: That’s one way to describe it - a compulsion, a building up of this destructive energy. Another fact I haven’t mentioned is the use of alcohol. In conjunction with my exposure to pornography, alcohol reduced my inhibitions and pornography eroded them further...Those of us who have been so influenced by violence in the media, particularly pornographic violence, are not some kind of inherent monsters. We are your sons and husbands. We grew up in regular families. Pornography can reach in and snatch a kid out of any house today. It snatched me out of my home 20 or 30 years ago. As diligent as my parents were, and they were diligent in protecting their children, and as good a Christian home as we had, there is no protection against the kinds of influences that are loose in a society that tolerates pornography.
JCD: You asked me to come because you had something you wanted to say. You feel that hardcore pornography, and the door to it, softcore pornography, is doing untold damage to other people and causing other women to be abused and killed the way you did.
Ted: I’m no social scientist... but I’ve lived in prison for a long time now, and I’ve met a lot of men who were motivated to commit violence. Without exception, every one of them was deeply involved in pornography - deeply consumed by the addiction. The F.B.I.’s own study on serial homicide shows that the most common interest among serial killers is pornographers. It’s true.
JCD: What would your life have been like without that influence?
Ted: I know it would have been far better, not just for me, but for a lot of other people - victims and families. There’s no question that it would have been a better life. I’m absolutely certain it would not have involved this kind of violence... What I hope will come of our discussion is that I think society deserves to be protected from itself. As we have been talking, there are forces at loose in this country, especially this kind of violent pornography, where, on one hand, well-meaning people will condemn the behavior of a Ted Bundy while they’re walking past a magazine rack full of the very kinds of things that send young kids down the road to being Ted Bundys. That’s the irony.
Whoa... this interview is chilling! Ted Bundy!!! TED BUNDY, who killed somewhere between 25 to 35 girls, says himself that getting involved in pornography is entering dangerous territory. In all my criminal justice schooling I've come to realize that Bundy is correct. Most criminals who have committed either sexual crimes or murders have been involved in pornography. It is my thought that pornography is even more dangerous than we realize. Obviously, those involved in pornography aren't automatically going to become criminals or serial killers. But I believe pornography is a gateway for these situations to happen. It is a gateway for sexual crimes, infidelity, sexual thoughts, depression and many other harmful actions.
I believe once you are involved in pornography it becomes a lifelong struggle. But I also believe in change. At the end of the documentary they say "it's important for those struggling to always remember that there's not anything that's happened to you that you can't heal from." I believe in the healing power of the atonement and the ability we have to be forgiven. As God's children we make the same mistakes over and over and OVER again but yet he is merciful and forgives us continually. His love is unconditional and never ending, regardless of our mistakes. Our mistakes don't define who we are and I would never judge someone for the mistakes they have made or are making. It doesn't matter where we have been or what we have done; it only matter where we are going. Sometimes all we can do is our best. When our best isn't enough, God makes up the difference and makes us stronger. :)
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